In an attempt to fill the void I have from the breakup – you can read about the breakup here: http://daphnes-delights.com/2016/03/16/the-breakup/, I decided to make a few additional changes in my world.
So, I began with my home. When we moved in together a lot of the decor was influenced by my ex. I tried desperately to NOT make anything too girly (because he continuously complained that his ex-wife always did).
The master bedroom – what it was: Paint – tan; lamp shades – maroon; bedding – maroon/print – somewhat masculine.
The master bedroom – what it is now: The paint is the same but I’ve changed all of the bedding. It’s now soft creams and greys with accents of a light pink. I’ve included big, fluffy throw pillows with crocheted edging and one sparkly, beaded throw pillow just for fun.
The bedding I purchased was very similar to this Grey Comforter Set. The throw pillows I bought are to die for – comfy and adorable. Here are a selection of throw pillows to chose from pink throw pillows. Now I need to find some girly lamp shades. I’ve hung up some new artwork, put my craft supplies in his closet so I have easy access to them, and bought myself a soft fluffy blanket to snuggle up with.
I also rearranged my bedroom so it is NOTHING like it was when he lived with me. I am attempting to wipe the slate clean!
I’ve also been spending a lot more time with my kids and grandkids. The blessing in all of the heart break has truly been this time with them. He never liked the kids to be around. Now, I see them once or twice a week (the ones who don’t live with me). We have dinner together, go shopping, go to the movies. It is simply fabulous.
Another void filler is time with my friends because (you guessed it), he didn’t like them to be around either. I’m able to go to girls night dinners, get pedicures, attend Sip & Paint events, even *gasp* have girls nights at my house……which previously was completely frowned upon.
I have even spent a couple of afternoons lying in my hammock.
I wish I could tell you that I’ve had time to read a good book but I haven’t. I’ve been on the go pretty consistently. I’m hoping that this winter I’ll be able to get a few good ones read.
Now, even with all these changes and void fillers I still have moments where I’m sad and feel lonely – almost 5 months later. BUT it IS getting better and when I have those moments I try to remind myself that its only momentary. And it ALWAYS is.
At the end of the day, my life is much, much better without him. It’s just the initial change that made it difficult. Every day it gets a little bit easier. And I’m sure it will continue.
I’m planning a weekend getaway for me and ALL of the kids this fall. My heart is filled with absolute joy knowing that they want to spend this time with me.
I am blessed.